Sunday, September 29, 2013
No New Tale to Tell
“Others again, and some that what most mattered was that we should be cossetted and flattered. That’s very near truth, it seems to me; A man can win us best with flattery” (Coghill Line 75). The act of flattering and pampering a woman to win her over, I think is a very timeless idea. Since the beginning of time, men have tried to woo women by complimenting them, buying them flowers and chocolates, and spending time with them. The idea behind this is to indirectly show the female that she is to be treated like a queen and nothing less. What woman doesn’t want to be treated like a queen even if only in moderation? Also, typically the first step in getting a woman is to approach her with a nice, heartfelt compliment. Whenever a person feels flattered by another, they will begin to develop sort of a soft spot for that person in their heart because flattery is a way of showing affection and when a person is being shown affection, they begin to see people differently. When someone feels that another person thinks they are beautiful or loving or talented, even if they don’t want to believe it, they will continue to want to be around the person even if because of the simple fact that they make them feel good on the inside and about themselves. Thus, making this a timeless way to at least initiate the process in winning over a woman. Times change, but the basic feelings of people no matter the age, the decade, religion, ethnicity, etc., tend to be a commonality amongst most people. Especially, when dealing with a world that is primarily based on what society thinks and people tend to be judged based on society’s point of view. This being said, women tend to be more subject to want to be seen in the more positive view of society. Therefore, when anyone, but typically especially a man, gives a woman a compliment and begins to flatter her and pamper her, the way she is viewed in society begins to increase in a positive light. So, as a female, I feel that the idea of treating a woman like a queen in this way is a very timeless way of winning her over because of the natural feelings a person gets when this is done.
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As a fellow girl, I agree with your opinion. Common sense and nice words can take a guy so far! I think flattery will be timeless, because so many wise men use it (as well as us girls) to begin conversations, to meet new people, and to sometimes 'break the ice.'
ReplyDeleteThere are still some men in society who do not value women as much as they could. How do you think we could teach them to respect women?
I agree that pampering and flattering women to win them over is a timeless approach to make them feel confident. However, I interpreted the idea of "wives' sovereignty over men" differently. I thought of it as men giving their wives power to make important decisions and actually have equal say in their property and situation. This means that the woman's opinions are respected as much as the man's opinions in a marriage. Giving her gifts and compliments might make her feel like a queen, but to really be a queen, she should have power over her life, instead of relying on her husband.
ReplyDeleteI agree with this idea and your opinion on the topic. Most girls i know, myself included, love being complimented cause it just makes us feel good about ourselves that someone is paying us a little bit of attention. I believe guys do use this tactic when first talking to girls and even as they continue to talk to them because it works and helps them get what they want. This shows how this idea of flattery is timeless because it seems like it always has been around since it is present in pieces of writing that date back this far and that it occurs in our everyday lives and will be around probably forever.
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